Missy Hexum is a personal banker, assistant vice president at American Federal Bank in Fergus Falls, zumba instructor, wife and mother of triplets. Her girls Aubrey, Hannah and Lauren will turn 4 years old in May.0401.IGC.missy.hexum.1

Triple Booked

Published 6:59am Thursday, May 9, 2013

“Working mom times three,” said Mark Eifert, president at American Federal Bank and Hexum’s boss. “I don’t know how she does it.”

She does it with schedules.

The triplets got on a schedule while in the NICU just after they were born, and Missy stuck to the schedule after they came home as well. In the beginning, she had a color-coded chart for Aubrey, Hannah and Lauren.

Raising three girls with her husband John in Underwood, Missy describes their everyday mornings as “pretty peaceful.” Wake-up time is 6:30 a.m., where the girls dress in their clothes that were already laid out the night before. John makes breakfast, and then Missy makes sure the girls are dropped off at either preschool or daycare, depending on the day of the week.

“We’ve been on a schedule with them since they were born,” Hexum said. “It’s been such a routine that we don’t even talk about it.”

Missy and her husband, who’s a mortgage lender at Gate City Bank, were married in June 2007, and their girls were born May 2009. It was about a month after Missy and John found out they were pregnant that they were having not one, not even two, but three babies.

“That was my one sleepless night,” Missy said. “Very big shock.”

This was around the era when Nadya Suleman, better known as “Octomom,” and the reality show “Jon and Kate Plus 8” were all over the news. So when Missy started telling people about her blessed event times three, a typical response was: “Well, at least it’s not eight.”

Missy said twins run in the family, “but you never think of that extra third child.

“And now it’s so normal for us,” Missy said.

Missy and John don’t have any other children, and the triplets will be their only children, she said, adding that they have an “instant family.” Some of the perks include the girls having built-in playmates, the interaction the girls have together and “the grandparents don’t fight over them,” she said.

It’s become a normalcy, having three little girls the same age. Still, the phrase “three’s a crowd” is usually true, Missy said.

“It’s hard to be there for all of them,” she said. “You know, you only have two hands. You can’t hold them all.

“That’s hard.”

As one might expect from a busy working mom, Missy said there never seems to be enough time. She always wants to have more hours both at home and at work, where she enjoys her job as a personal banker.

Missy has spent 13 years at American Federal. She does many different things, basically whatever the customer wants, she said.

“You wear all kinds of hats,” Missy said. “Everybody’s different here.”

Eifert said Missy has worked her way up and is one of the top sales makers at the bank. When it comes to work, she makes a to-do list and sticks to it. Prioritizing has really helped her, Eifert said.

“She’s driven, to say the least,” he said. “She’s one that steps up to a challenge, that’s for sure.”

About three years ago, Missy started going to zumba classes and loved them. She loved Zumba so much that last fall she became an instructor twice a week at Phatty Natties.

“It’s something for me,” Missy said. “That’s a little bit of me time. I thought it would be a really good thing to build for myself.”

The family schedule is ever-changing, Missy said, but no matter what, mom and dad are usually there to give their girls a bath and tuck them in for 8 p.m. bedtime. Another routine that is so important for them, she said.

“At home it’s such a routine that it’s almost ‘Groundhog Day,’” Missy said.


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