Moms more exhausted than dadsPublished 6:09am Monday, October 14, 2013
Most of us who are husbands and fathers, if we’re really honest, readily admit that our spouses and mothers of our children do most of the work on the home front. This opinion is borne out by surveys.
“Mothers, even those who work full time outside the home, spend about twice as much time as fathers taking care of kids and cleaning while fathers spend more time at work and in leisure,” said Brigid Schulte of the Washington Post. “Surveys such as American Time Use show that mothers feel exhausted.”
To be sure, many husbands are deeply involved as dads and share chores around the house.
“However, mothers do most of the family planning, organizing, buying kids’ clothes, cleaning closets and arranging child care and doctor visits,” said Schulte.
The Pew Research Center found that mothers, on average, feel more wiped out than fathers in three major categories of life: work outside of the home, housework and child care.
The upside for women, according to surveys, is that they’re happier in their lives as compared to men.
“Mothers find paid work more meaningful than fathers,” said a spokesperson for the Pew Research Center. “Far more mothers think of housework as meaningful, while more fathers are stressed out by it.”
Most men would no doubt prefer mowing the lawn or shoveling the walk than cleaning bathrooms.
High percentages of mothers and fathers report that caring for children is the most meaningful way they spend their time. But there are differences in what mothers do with children and what fathers do.
Mothers spend much more time than do fathers with the physical needs of children. These include feeding the baby, giving baths and doing more managerial and educational care.
“Only when it comes to playing with kids do fathers do almost the same amount as mothers,” said Schulte.
Other studies point out that mothers’ sleep is more interrupted than fathers and that mothers feel more rushed to get things done. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that women between the ages of 18 and 44 are nearly twice as likely as men to say they feel tired or exhausted most of the time.
“Parents are often expected to work as if they have no children,” said Schulte. “And mothers, in particular, are expected to parent as if they didn’t work outside the home.”
Life has indeed changed here in Otter Tail County and across the state and nation.
“Even with involved husbands, it’s mothers who say they are the ones who carry the family’s mental load,” said Schulte.
Wives, however, do understand that many husbands are under a lot of pressure to do more work at their jobs outside the home.
Husbands and fathers who express to their wives how much the roles of women on the home front are appreciated, according to surveys, can go a long way in ensuring harmony within households.
Three-way Vikings QB hype nothing new
The musical chairs of Minnesota Vikings quarterbacks Christian Ponder, Matt Cassel and Josh Freeman is driving many fans nuts. This scenario is nothing new.
The Vikings had three quarterbacks of equal ability in 1971, namely Gary Cuozzo, Norm Snead and Bob Lee. Cuozzo took over QB duties for the Vikings in 1970 following the departure of Minnesota Super Bowl quarterback Joe Kapp.
Cuozzo, who became a dentist after his playing career ended, was the opening day quarterback in 1971. Lee, however, was the playoff starter when Minnesota lost in post-season play.
In 1987 the Vikings’ Wade Wilson was replaced by Tommy Kramer. Sean Salisbury took over from quarterback Rich Gannon in 1992, Warren Moon was replaced by Brad Johnson in1996 and the following year Johnson gave way to Randall Cunningham.
When it comes to NFL quarterbacks, we need to expect the unexpected.