So recently I sat down with my wife and a lawyer and drafted a will. Nothing too crazy or anything, but with two kids we thought that it would be a good idea to get some of our affairs in order. This way we are sure that our belongings and such get to the right people.
But after going through the normal “this goes to this person” and “establish a trust for our kids” we got down to some deep questions that I have only joked about with friends and family. The ones that make you sit back and think really hard if you are making the right decision or not sounding completely absurd.
One of the first ones that was hard to answer was in the likelihood of a catastrophe. It was a question on who would raise our children if our plan A and B were both unable to take care of them. I had really never thought about it but I already knew the answer to the question. My wife wasn’t on the same page as I was initially but after talking it over with her, she was in complete agreement.
Having a trustworthy friend since kindergarten, one who is a father himself and has a wife that both my wife and I have felt like we have grown up with made the most sense. As parents, the couple in question is the one that we feel like we could most discuss the ups and downs of parenting. Our morals and upbringings also made us comfortable in picking them as the emergency option. One short phone call and a few pleasantries later, we established our emergency plan for our children.
The next question that I had to tackle was about how to approach my own demise (not trying to be negative). I had always joked that when I pass on that I would like a memorial bowling tournament in my name, a party for all my living family and friends, and maybe a few clowns making balloon animals. But all kidding aside, I had to answer very personal questions about how my treatment would be handled in the likeliness that I would be unable to make my own decisions.
The lawyer explained to us that by putting what we wanted in our own handwriting, it allowed those that had to execute those plans a bit of relief as the decision was not theirs. Woo! This was getting pretty heavy.
I think like most of us we feel like we will go out on our own terms; pass away in our sleep or die doing something heroic. But life doesn’t usually work the way we want it to. There are several curves, dips, hills and valleys that we navigate. We never know when our time is and that is why it is important to plan ahead.
To fill out my health-care directives took me several hours. I had to think long and hard about what I wanted and how to ease a burden that would be put on my family. This was really depressing to think about as I feel full of life (except when I am complaining about aches and pains) and “plan” to have more time with my family.
In the end, I feel comfortable with the decisions that my wife and I made in our will. It wasn’t something I was looking forward to, but after it was all completed, I felt relieved and confident I made decisions for the betterment of my family.
“The Matrix” and Spider-Man
OK, I have to tackle these issues and make my column a little more light-hearted. I am going to give my two cents on the stories that broke in the entertainment world.
First, the news that we will be seeing a new “Matrix” movie in the future. It has been announced that Keanu Reeves and Carrie-Anne Moss will be reprising their roles from the sci-fi trilogy. Lana Wachowski, director and writer of the original trilogy, will also return to do the same for the fourth installment.
I have to say…no. I really enjoyed the first “Matrix” movie but the second two left a lot to be desired. When I found out that there would be a fourth movie, I questioned whether I should see it after being disappointed by the second and third movie.
The next thing on the docket is the news that Marvel/Disney will not be working with Sony on any future Spide-Man projects. This has devastated fans of the Marvel Cinematic Universe as the unlikely pairing allowed the webslinger to be featured in several Disney-owned movies and favorites like Iron Man and Nick Fury were allowed in the Sony movies.
I hope for the sake of both film companies, actors and fans that something can be worked out. These movies have grossed billions of dollars in recent years and allowed comic books to become mainstream. I would hate to see Sony do with Spider-Man what Fox did with the Fantastic Four (one marginal movie and two bombs).
Well, here’s to hoping for a peaceful resolution.
Zach Stich is the managing editor of The Fergus Falls Daily Journal. His column appears Friday.